The power of unconditional love: Liam’s journey

Julie Beazley is a Digital Publisher, Graphic and Web Designer based in Oshawa, Ontario. She creates and shares resources through her small business, including resources, advocacy tools, printables and heartfelt reflections from life with her son, Liam. Julie channels her professional expertise into empowering other families walking similar paths. 

13-year-old Liam lives with his mom, Julie, his stepfather, Brent, their dog, Fox, and a couple of parrot fish. He loves music, dancing, using the bucket swing at parks and cracking up at funny movies. Liam thrives on experiences like bowling, theme park rides, ziplining, canoeing, hovercraft adventures and ATV rides through muddy forest trails. He has been on the ice with the Toronto Maple Leafs, navigated through jungle and mangroves by boat and embraced life with a boldness many only dream of. In Julie’s words, Liam is “extremely mischievous,” full of laughter and loves engaging with his family and friends. Together they have built a life that is equal parts organized, adventurous and beautifully unpredictable. 

Liam entered the world at 34 weeks gestation in Costa Rica, weighing just 5.5 pounds. Doctors immediately noted facial features consistent with Trisomy 21 (Down Syndrome), along with jaundice and a concerning cardiac murmur. Julie flew back with Liam to Toronto, where she is from, and he was transferred to The Hospital for Sick Children (SickKids) as an infant and underwent open-heart surgery at just seven weeks old to repair a congenital heart defect (Tetralogy of Fallot with aortic stenosis and AVSD). Down Syndrome is a genetic condition caused by an extra copy of chromosome 21, resulting in 47 chromosomes instead of the typical 46. It causes mild to moderate cognitive delays, distinct physical features and potential health issues like heart defects. It is not caused by anything parents do and occurs by chance.  

Liam has what Julie calls a “trifecta” of diagnoses: Down Syndrome, cerebral palsy and autism spectrum disorder. The combination results in low muscle tone working against spasticity, sensory challenges and global developmental delays. He is non-verbal, though deeply communicative through sounds, gestures and expression. Liam’s receptive understanding far exceeds his ability to express his needs. Gross and fine motor skills are limited, and he requires one-to-one support in all areas of daily living. Though predominantly a wheelchair user, he walks with support in a walker and rides an adaptive bike at school. 

Feeding was one of the earliest and most exhausting battles as Julie navigated Liam’s severe milk protein allergy, which led to Liam receiving a temporary nasogastric tube (NG Tube). She was told repeatedly that Liam was “failure to thrive” and urged to place a gastrostomy tube (G Tube), but Julie made the decision to persevere. After creative problem-solving (including feeding him from a salad dressing bottle) and relentless advocacy, Liam now enjoys orally eating French fries, pasta, vegetables and soft rotisserie chicken in addition to homemade purees. Food, once a battlefield, is now a celebration when they eat at restaurants or pull into a Wendy’s drive-thru. 

After relocating from the Sarnia area to Oshawa, Liam’s care transitioned to Grandview Kids. Through Grandview Kids, Liam receives services for occupational therapy, physiotherapy (including equipment support and ankle-foot orthoses fittings), therapeutic recreation, developmental paediatric monitoring and Botox injections for spasticity through the Hypertonia Clinic. Alongside medical services, Liam and Julie have accessed social work (funding and school IEP assistance), the Extensive Needs Service for behavioural support and introduction to fun activities and events through the Family Engagement Program, emphasizing the importance of connection. Julie met other parents who understood the sleepless nights, the behaviour challenges and the medical overwhelm. This encouraged her to discover other community groups that further expanded that circle of support, turning isolation into global sisterhood. 

Julie received Liam’s Down Syndrome diagnosis shortly after birth but did not have time to fully process it. “I was so in love with my baby and terrified of the immediate open-heart surgery and its implications that the diagnosis took a back seat.” She describes the diagnosis as “unexpected, scary and overwhelming, given the life I had envisioned for my child while I was pregnant. The relief I felt following his heart repair diminished any of the circumstances impending from having Down Syndrome. And it never took away from the love I felt for my son.” 

If Julie could talk to herself on diagnosis day, she would encourage her to not listen to other people’s perceptions of Liam’s abilities and worth. “Simply love your child and believe in him. He will prove every single limitation placed on him to be inaccurate, and along the way, champion so many hearts.” Julie’s feelings about Liam’s future are mixed. She worries about supports when she is no longer here but she is also excited because she knows her son. “He is the epitome of unconditional love,” she says. “If everyone was like him, the world would be such a better place.”

Misconceptions about Down Syndrome that Julie wants to challenge 

• People with Down Syndrome are not “always happy.” They experience the full range of emotions. 
• It is not a disease and cannot be “cured.” 
• Life expectancy has more than doubled (now 60+ years). 
• Individuals with Down Syndrome often resemble their families more than each other. 
• Many can live independently and drive with support. 
• Many attend mainstream schools. 
• Women with Down Syndrome can have children. 
• They are more alike than different, defined by personality and passions and not diagnosis. 
• Individuals with Down Syndrome succeed in elite arenas: 
  • Monika Myers, Toronto-based professional international runway model 
  • Madison Tevlin, Canadian actress and broadcaster 
  • Kyle Land, Canadian competitive bodybuilder and certified personal trainer 
  • Ana Victoria Espino de Santiago from Mexico is a lawyer advocating for disability rights