Grandview Kids joins a community in mourning following the loss of Draven Graham

Grandview Kids joins a community in mourning following the loss of Draven Graham.

Draven Graham was a young boy with Autism who tragically passed away early this week in Lindsay, Ontario. Grandview Kids extends our deepest condolences to Draven’s family and friends during this difficult time. Many of us within the Durham, Lindsay and Autism communities remain shaken by this tragedy.

Traumatic events can impact those directly or indirectly involved. It is natural to experience all kinds of emotions, from shock or sadness to anger or fearfulness. You may also experience physical or behavioural responses such as changes to your sleep or eating patterns, forgetfulness, increased vigilance, withdrawal or irritability. These reactions are all part of the grief experienced when we suffer a loss.

Here are some things to consider:

Reach out to friends and family. Let them know what would be helpful during this difficult time.
Be kind to yourself and be aware of your feelings. Try not to judge and be patient. Time will often ease the intensity of your reactions.
Reduce other stressors when possible and try to engage in a relaxing activity, like a hobby, exercise or leisure activity.
Look after your physical health. Maintain good sleep, eating and exercise habits.
Focus on what you can control in your life and engage in routine activities.
Express your feelings tangibly or creatively by writing in a journal, doing an art activity, or volunteering for a cause.
If your reactions are intense and enduring, talk to your doctor or connect with a mental health professional.

There are many professional services that you and your family can access:

Distress Centre Durham: 905-430-2522
Durham Mental Health Services Crisis Response: 905-666-0483
Bereaved Families of Ontario Durham Region: 1-800-387-4870
Durham Counselling Walk-in Clinic (ages three to 19 years): 289-509-0603 extension 3203
Kids Help Phone (ages five to 20 years): 1-800-668-6868

Grandview parents and caregivers can lean on each other by accessing the Online Parent Support page through Facebook. Families currently accessing Grandview Kids Social Work services can reach out to their clinician for advice and insight.

Tragedies such as this bring our community closer together. Connect with one another and know there are many professionals and peers ready to support you.